Healing Techniques

Here are some techniques I use during sessions with clients that you can use on your own at home. They are all really helpful in regards to feelings of anxiety and depression, healing past trauma, and for managing stress.

Heart Mind Coherence

Summon up a memory or thought that gives you a feeling of love, joy, empathy, or compassion. It can be a feeling for a pet, or witnessing an act of kindness. When you have that memory or feeling, simply place your hand on your heart and breathe into it like it is a lung.

Imagine that your heart is a glowing green light. With your breath, grow it bigger and bigger, filling your body, room, house, neighbourhood, city, country, planet, universe with this loving, healing, magnetic energy. When you are in this state, you are out of fight or flight. Your energy levels are raised, your immune system is strengthened, and your intelligence levels go up.

When you are in this state, your quantum field is magnetized to more loving, positive interactions and experiences.

Reverse Heart Mind Coherence

If you ever happen to notice yourself experiencing strong feelings of joy, love, compassion, you can also focus on your heart, then send that feeling outward. In effect, you are sharing your loving feelings with the world.

Havening Technique

The Havening technique is a great way to go into a relaxed state quickly. Gently stroke from your shoulders down to your elbows, or across your cheeks, down the tops of your thighs, or even just gently rub the palms of your hands together. These actions cause your brain to take you into a Delta (deeply relaxed) state. The effect are cumulative, so the more you do it, the more resilient your amygdala (the bundle of nerves in your brain that tells you whether you're in danger or not) becomes. The Havening technique can be done when you are stressed and will take you out of an anxious (fight or flight) state. Petting an animal will also take you into Delta.

The Core Method

Take a story/thought/belief/feeling that causes discomfort. Tell yourself 'the story' of it if you need help bringing up the feelings.

Stop for a moment and feel the sensations in your body that come up. Notice where they are. Calibrate them (on a scale of 1-10). It helps if you can name the emotion(s) or feeling(s).

Ask yourself, "Do I feel a lack of acceptance? A lack of control? A lack of connection? Or a lack of support/security? (or maybe a lack of something else).It may be a combination of lacks.

Pick the one that feels strongest. You can always do it again with the other ones afterward.

Take that feeling and imagine dropping it down your core-the very centre of you. Right down into your pelvic area or the base of your spine. Slowly allow it to rise up your spinal column.

You can use your finger to point out to yourself where you are along your body. You can imagine an elevator, or a helium balloon. Whatever works for you.

Feel free to pause along the way if you feel uncomfortable sensations. Breathe into them.

Allow the feeling to rise to the crown of your head. Ask yourself it it's OK to let it go.

Give yourself permission to let it go, then allow it to leave through your crown. If for some reason you feel that you can't, do the core method on that reason.

If you are lying down for this exercise, you can also imagine moving the energy along a grocery conveyor belt and allow the energy to be placed in a shopping cart and taken away.

Re-calibrate when you're done.

How does the 'story' feel now? If the number is still high or you still 'feel bad', then repeat the exercise. You maybe want to change whether it's lack of approval/control/support.

Also, the feelings around the story may have changed. There can be layers to an issue. Take as much time or as little as feels right to you. It's your healing.

Here is a link to Jim Shane's wonderful book about the technique (He is the originator): https://www.amazon.ca/Living-life-Authentic-Magic-Method/dp/B08QS692RF

Revision Technique

Go back in your mind to a memory that causes you distress. This can be something from your childhood or even from yesterday. It can be something that happened to you, something you did yourself, or even something you witnessed. It can be a general memory (like being bullied a lot in school) or something precise. Rescue your younger self from the memory and take them to a safe place (this can be a garden, forest, fluffy cloud, whatever feels safe to you and your younger self) and comfort them. Tell that that you love them, that they're safe, and that you'll protect them. Take your time with this, until you feel that your younger self has all that they need. Some clients like to bring in a toy, craft, blanket, or comfort animal to stay with the younger self. Float away from the scene and imagine it shrinking small enough that you can place it inside your heart. Go back to the memory and confront abusers if needed. This is about getting all your emotions out, so it's OK to be angry at the person. Imagine them taking everything in that you are saying. Imagine them apologising to you, from a higher version of themselves. Then, change the memory completely. Paint a new and supportive memory over top of it. Remember, your subconscious mind can't tell the difference between what's real and what's made up so make the new memory AMAZING!

Here's a bonus exercise. This one creates more synchronicity in your life...

Gratefulness Technique

Think of 10 things you're grateful for, or that you love. You can do this out loud, in your head, or write it down, whatever works best for you. Some people will say, "Thank you Universe for _______". Others will just list the things while feeling love or joy around them. You can be grateful for simple things like your morning cup of coffee, your favourite hoodie, your dog, your city, etc. Try to do this exercise at least once, if not, three times per day. Its puts positive attention and intention on your quantum field. This is what we want to be doing/feeling all of the time. If done three times per day you will start to notice synchronicity happening around you. I would advise writing it down as it happens because it's pretty crazy when you start to notice it. It also magnetizes you to more helpful situations and experiences in life.

Psoas Position

Lay on the floor and place your bent legs up on a low surface, such as a bed, couch, or stool. Allow your knees to fall open naturally. Stay in this position for a few minutes or longer. Stretching your Psoas muscle takes you out of fight or flight and into a state of rest and digest. You can place a rolled-up towel under your neck if you are experiencing neck strain. Talking to your cells would be a great thing to do while in the Psoas Position. You can also talk to body parts. You can ask your cells to drain you of unwanted emotions, feelings, or beliefs. Then, you can ask your cells to vibrate with peace/love/confidence/power/joy. Whatever works for you at the time. And this leads to paying attention to posture. Looking down at phones and computers actually puts us in a state of fight or flight due to looking down and curling inwards. Occasionally look up, lift your head, open your chest, look outside at something far away. When our eyes are focused on something small (like a phone screen) our thoughts also become focused and it can be hard for us to look at the bigger picture. Wide open focus causes us to see the big picture and can help us to be more open and flexible in our thoughts and beliefs.

Please EMAIL ME with any questions you might have. I'd also love to hear how these methods are working for you and feel free to share this link with anyone you think may benefit from these at home healing techniques.

The Skinny Tree Ghost

A young couple contacted me about doing a clearing on their house. They had a two year old son who had developed severe asthma and now he also was going through his second bout of pneumonia. Their son had been complaining that there was a man in his bedroom closet. The couple had also felt a presence in their home on more than one occasion. They felt that whatever it was was affecting their son's health.

I always like to do a mediation before I go to clear someone's house. I find that I can often pick up on extra little bits of information that are helpful to the clearing. 

When I did my meditation I saw a tree. Not a normal tree, though. A scary tree. It had tons of branches but no leaves. It felt very dangerous and malevolent. I had never picked up on something like that before. It was weird. Was this an ancient nature spirit? Why would it be attacking a small child?

I went to see the house. It was built in the early 2000s, suburban-built on old farmland. There were no evil trees on the property that I could see. Then energy in the main part of the house felt totally fine. I went upstairs and definitely could feel some energy in the boy's room. I tuned into it and picked up an old man-a farmer. He was wearing a tattered coat with a belt around it. He had a son that had been in the airforce in WW2 and had died. He and his wife had stayed on, farming for many years. He had died, a widower, staying on the land until the end.

At first I thought that perhaps he was angry at having a child on his property but he said to me, "I'm here to protect the children." That was all that he would say. His energy felt kindly, concerned. I wondered if he was protecting the son from the 'evil tree spirit'. I brought up my vision of the tree with the couple, though I downplayed how negative it felt to me. I then started my clearing, down in the basement and working up. 

It was when I was on the stairs going up to the second floor where the bedrooms were, that I saw the evil tree. It was in the bathroom, glowing like a beacon. It was a plug- in Scentsy wax warmer! The design on it was EXACTLY the tree that I had seen in my vision!

"Here's what's been giving your son asthma! I told them, "The ghost of the old farmer that you all have been feeling in the house has been making himself known so that you'd call in someone who could pick up on what was really happening."

Before I was done explaining what was going on, the husband had already gone and gotten a cardboard box and was clearing all of the Scentsy products (they had several) out of the house. He put them all out on the front steps. 

I thanked the old man and told the couple to let me know if they felt him around again. As far as I know, things are still good there.

I often tell people that it's not always ghosts that cause energetic problems in homes. It can be the way that furniture is arranged, or a room that never gets any light. It's often clutter, or projects that were never finished, inner healing that needs to be done. 

In this case, it was a tiny boy who was sensitive to chemicals. It took a concerned, dead farmer to get the family the help that they needed.